A preconcieved notion- an opinion formed beforehand without adequate evidence.
I have formed my opinion on people based on these notions before in life, as I'm sure most of you have as well. It is the most admirable thing in the world when someone can be so genuine to look past these and get to know someone for the person who they are. It is not an easy task, you can believe that, and sometimes people make mistakes that lead to negative harsh words. Also, when you grow so close to someone and give your complete trust and respect to them, it's extremely difficult to take their opinions without forming those of your own.
Recently someone had the courage to do this with me, and for that I am ever thankful. This girl is a beautiful soul and I am so glad that she gave me the respect that she did...and allowed herself to see me through her own eyes.
I believe that there is simply a lack of communication in modern day friendships, which has made trust to be something that is rarely found in close friendships. Pride can also get in the way of forgiveness and you will lose friends that you never expected, simply because you are both too proud to admit your faults. I have experienced all of this, as I am sure most of you have.
I realize sometimes I just have to look in the mirror and say "as much as you think you are right, Alyssa Lee, look at it from their point of view, forgive, and forget." which always leads me to the whole "yeah, you know what..you're right I was kind of a jackass and I love you."
If we could just talk about what is bothering us when it's bothering us...I believe that friendships in females would be a whole lot easier. If we would show people how much we love them instead of just posting it to social networks, if we could spend more time with our friends trying to understand them better, and if we could just get past ourselves sometimes...we would all be so much happier.
Recently I have given talk of giving up on holding my friendships so high in life. Well, I've realized in the past couple of days that maybe instead of letting go of these friendships maybe I just need to get over my fears and be the friend I know that people want and need.
So as of now. Just living and loving. I love you, friends.